My husband has been hitting me. If I say the least thing that aggravates him he will smack my fact or punch me in the arm. He works really and is tired a lot and says he can’t stand it when I talk back to him. This has gotten worse in the last few years. He calls and checks up on me at work but won’t even tell me where he is or what he’s doing. We have two boys ages nine and seven and I don’t think it’s a good example for them to see this. I know this isn’t right but I can’t see how could survive on my own. What can I do?
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You are right. It is not OK for your husband to hit you and it’s a really bad example for your sons. You could try getting your husband to go to counseling but men who abuse women often do not want this kind of help. Find a counselor who specializes in domestic abuse and go on your own. You need someone to talk to who understands what you are going through. You may just need someone to help you figure out what to do. Be prepared. Look for the domestic violence help line in you are in case you feel that you are in danger.
If you try to leave things could get worse. Do what it takes to keep you and your kids safe.