We Are Barely Keeping Our Heads Above Water

Dear Sara,

My husband and I both work full time and are barely keeping our heads above water financially. I feel stressed because I never seem to have enough time or enough money. My two kids ages ten and twelve don’t want to help out around the house and I just end up just giving up with the housework and letting it go. I hate the way things look but I am tired of yelling. I need some help from the kids but how do I get hem to cooperate?

Dear Leona,

Your kids are definitely old enough to help out with chores around the house and they wouldn’t be as well of financially if you didn’t work and stayed home to take care of them and the house.

Stress can be really hard on your body and sometimes can make you physically ill. Let your kids know that you are not supermom and can’t possibly do everything. It’s time for them to step up and help out. Enlist them with a spirit of cooperation rather than being grumpy or yelling.

What motivates your kids? If you are giving them money without their cooperation then it’s time to put them on an allowance that they have to earn. This way you can withhold money if their chores are not done. There are chores that have to be done daily or weekly. Assign a daily chore to each kid and rotate the chores weekly. You can’t make your kids help out but you can point them in the right direction with rewards and punishment. You deserve some time for yourself once in a while. Take care of yourself.


  1. Your husband should be helping and also getting your children to help. He’s their parent also and should be backing you in getting the kids to help. It should not all be on your shoulders.

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