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Violent Teenager Abuses Mother

Dear Sara,
My fourteen-year-old son is completely wild. I have no control over him at all. His father left us when he was five and he has done whatever he wanted since then. If I don’t give him what he wants he hits me and thinks that the support money his father sends should be his to spend. I love my son but this is getting to be more than I can deal with. How should I handle this?

Dear Edie,
Your son shouldn’t be allowed to abuse you. If he does it again, call the police. He’s a bully and learning fast that this is the way to act to get what he wants. It’s teaching him that it’s OK to hit a woman. His father needs to assume some responsibility here. Maybe this is what your son wants and needs, attention from his father. If this isn’t possible then let your son know that if he doesn’t behave that you will go to court and put him in states care.
He seems to be intent on destroying his relationship with you. If his goal is to with his father and his father rejects him things could get worse. If possible, find a counselor that you can talk to and see if you can find some better ways to deal with your son.
Good luck.