School Bullies

About School Bullies

What is it?

Bullying has two key components: repeated harmful acts and an imbalance of power. It involves repeated physical, verbal or psychological attacks or intimidation directed against a victim who cannot properly defend him- or herself because of size or strength, or because the victim is outnumbered or less psychologically resilient.

Suggested Steps

1. Try to catch it early.  If you child indicates that he/she is being bullied, talk to them about the details. Try to get specific times (write them down, but not in front of your child). If harrassment is through text messaging, or email, save those message. Use that to evaluate the severity of the situation.

3.  There may be a particular aspect of your child’s appearance that bullies pick up on. You might try giving them some ideas. For example: If your child is getting bullied because of poor social skills – his shoes are always untied, he walks with his head down, shoulders slouched, avoids eye contact, shirt half tucked in, unclean hair or body, always biting nails or picking nose. You can help him/her by teaching them better social skills.

4.  When You also might try a type of role-playing to see how your child acts around other kids. This gives you the opportunity to help your child work out acceptable responses. (especially if he/she is being bullied verbally).

5.  Consider martial arts training, there are many good schools that improve confidence, while reducing the desire to actually fight.   Bullies pick up on a lack of confidence, just addressing that issue can alleviate the problem.

6.  Here are some other tips.

7.  In grade school, ask the principal for a meeting with the parents of the bully.

8.  In high school meet with the principal and discuss options.

9.  Ask the principal about the schools policies and procedures, and steps for escalation if the behavior continues.