I got married at sixteen because I was pregnant. I wanted my baby very much and decided that marriage was the best option. I’m twenty-four now and my son is in school. We are doing well financially and my son seems to happy and well adjusted. The problem is that I don’t love my husband and am sexually turned off by him. I can’t imagine getting a divorce because I’m so dependent financially and I don’t want to upset my son’s life. How can I go on with a life that is so routine and boring without love?
It sounds like your son is the most important thing in your life and you are determined to do what’s best for him. Your lack of love for your husband is your first problem. You might ask yourself why your feelings for him have left and if there is anything you can do to revive them. Is there anything that he is doing that is turning you off sexually? Maybe some counseling would help you both so that he can see that there is a problem. If he doesn’t know there is a problem he won’t be able to fix it.
You sound like your life is boring and routine. Now that your son is in school you have time to do other things. Think about what your interests are and make goals to get the education that you need to complete them. If you are determined to stay in your marriage you have to make what you to make what you have work. It’s up to you.