I am worried about my two nephews ages seven and ten. My sister and her husband live down the street from me. He is an ex-marine and he treats those two boys like they are in boot camp. He has them out early in the morning and makes them run with him, maybe a mile or two. They have a lot of chores to do and can’t play until they are finished. He also insists that they are there for every meal and eat everything on their plates. I think he is too severe with these boys. Should I call Child Protective Services?
I am not so sure that what your brother-in-law is doing is abusive. It appears that he thinks his children need some exercise. Children in this day and age are getting less and less exercise, are spending their time in front of TVs and computers and as adults are becoming obese with high cholesterol, blood pressure and diabetes.
It’s probably not abuse for kids to do chores. It gives them a sense of responsibility and makes them feel part of the family. If your ex-marine brother-in-law let them go out and play first they probably wouldn’t do their chores. I don’t know that it’s a good idea to make a child eat everything on their plate but it is probably not considered abusive as long as it is normal healthy food. I am also very much in favor of families sitting down to meals together.
Unless your brother-in-law is beating his children and leaving marks and bruises, I can’t see any reason to report him to Child Protective Services. It sounds like he is doing a lot of things right.