I’m in love with an older man. I’m sixteen and he’s my best friend’s father. I know he likes me because he says nice things and sometimes he gives me a hug. I haven’t told anybody yet how I feel. I wish I could tell him but I’m afraid. In my head I know it’s wrong but I can’t help how I feel. I can see it would be a big mess if he liked me back but I can’t help but feel that my life would be perfect if that would happen. Should I tell him how I feel?
You are getting on very dangerous ground here. You are talking about a man the same age as your father and is married to your best friend’s mother. If you tell him how you feel he will be very uncomfortable around you because there is no way he would want to have a relationship with a sixteen-year-old girl. There are words like illegal, unethical and immoral that apply here. Even a twenty-one-year-old man is too old for you. You can’t help how you feel but you can help how you behave. This feeling will go away with time especially when you find someone your own age. The best thing you can do for now is to try to conquer these feelings and look for someone more appropriate. Be strong.