I have been married for ten years and have two boys ages nine and seven. I am gay and I have known it all along but thought that getting married and having a family was the right thing to do. I have been faithful to my wife but our relationship is strained because I am not interested in her physically. She keeps asking me what is wrong. I love my boys and don’t want to upset them but it’s getting harder and harder to keep up the pretense. What’s the best thing for me to do?
It sounds like your wife isn’t really happy either. Maybe it’s time to have a heart to heart talk with her to let her know your true identity. It’s not fair to her to let her believe that she’s not worthy of your love when in fact you would not be interested in any other woman. I am glad that you have been faithful since you have given her at least that much of you.
If you and your wife decide on divorce, it will be difficult for your kids. Give them all the time and attention that they need.