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I Just Lost My 2-year-old Son

Dear Sara,

I can’t stop crying. I lost my beautiful, happy two year old son to meningitis two months ago. I keep expecting  him to come around the corner dragging his “blankie.” My husband is no help. He has his work to go to and doesn’t seem to have any patience with me. I feel really guilty because I didn’t take my precious little one to the doctor sooner. I had no idea that he was so sick. How can I get over this? It hurts so bad.

Dear Christina,

I am so sorry that you have lost your precious son. Any time a loved one dies it is extremely difficult but it must be so much worse to lose a toddler so quickly. This is not something that will just go away. You will feel the pain of the loss for a long time.

You and your husband are dealing with your grief in different ways. You are expressing your grief openly and he is burying it inside so that he doesn’t have to deal with it. Maybe he is having a problem because your grief reminds him of his own pain.

You need some support right now. Look in your phone book or on-line for a support group called Compassionate Friends. This is a group where you can share your loss and they will understand what you are going through. Sometimes life isn’t easy and we have to get through is the best we can.

Take care of yourself.