I Have Baby Fever

Dear Sara,

I am single and have never been married. I would really like to have a child. I have thought about adoption or finding a sperm donor. I would not be able to quit working so I would be a working Mom and don’t know if this is fair to a child. I am almost thirty and feel like I need to do this now while I have the energy to raise a child. Do you think this is an impossible idea?

Dear Grace,

Your idea may not be impossible but you could face some problems. It’s difficult to adopt a newborn baby because so many couples want one and many unmarried girls choose to keep their babies. If you adopt an older child, they often come from dysfunctional families and have various problems. Apparently in vitro fertilization is fairly expensive and it could take several tries to get pregnant. So that is something to consider. There are many working Moms out there and they are to be admired for taking on two full-time jobs. Only you can decide what you are able to handle.


  1. Grace- when you realize at 35 that your fertility has gone down, you may wish you had had kids now instead of waiting. I am a Single Mother by Choice. I work and I raise my kids. There are many support groups to talk these things out on Facebook, etc. I just wanted to point out that most don’t need in vitro fertilization. IUI and ICI or what they used to term artificial insemination is much cheaper and far less invasive. I would recommend talking through the process with someone who actually knows rather than an advice column by someone who has never been in your shoes.

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