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Shadow Of Man With Two Kids

Husband Refuses to Take Care of Kids

Dear Sara,

I always thought that I would stay at home and take care of my kids after I had them. I have a two-year-old and a four-year-old and have stayed home since my four-year-old was born. My husband lost his job so I need to go back to work as a nurse. My husband has refused to take care of the kids when I go back to work. I don’t think that this is fair. I want what’s best for my kids. How do I handle this?
-Leah

Dear Leah,

If your husband doesn’t want to stay at home with your two children then that’s probably not going to be “best for your kids” because his resentment will show in his attitude toward them. It sounds like he thought it was part of your agreement that you would be the one to take care of the kids. He may also need to focus on getting another job. I know it wasn’t part of your plan but you may need to start looking around for some reliable help. There are people who are willing to take care of children in their home as well as daycare. Maybe your husband would be willing to transport your kids to and from their caregiver. Try to make things go as smoothly as possible as your tension and anger will have a negative effect on your kids.
Good luck,
-Sara