My son is five years old and still not dry at night. I bought him special underwear to wear at night so we’ve solved the wet bed problem. He’s not happy about it and is really afraid that his friends will find out. I worry about how he feels about himself. Is there any way to help him?
Dear Mary Ann,
You could start with a routine checkup by his pediatrician to make sure there is no infection or kidney or bladder difficulties. Try not to put any pressure on your son. Just listen to his feelings and support his efforts to stay dry.
You can ask your son to try to hold his urine longer during the day to help increase his bladder control. Ask him if he wants you to wake him before you go to bed at night so he can empty his bladder then. If he wants it, you can put an alarm clock by his bed to wake him during the night. Ask him if there are any other things that he thinks might work and let him be in control. Try not to let him see that you are worrying as this will put more pressure on him and make him more anxious.
If he hasn’t gained control by age seven or eight, he may need to see a child psychologist. Hopefully he will have gained control before then.