Giving Opportunities To My Gifted Son

Dear Sara,

My son is thirteen and very bright. I don’t know where he gets this as his father and I are just average. He took a test at a private school and they have offered him a scholarship that will pay half of his tuition. This would stretch our budget to the limit and then some for the four years that he would be there and we also have two younger kids who also need things. His father says we absolutely can’t afford it but I’m inclined to say yes because it’s a really good opportunity and he really wants to go there. What do you think?

Dear Molly,

If your son really wants to go to this school then he needs to step up and help earn the money. Is he willing to mow the neighbor’s lawn or get some babysitting jobs? It won’t be easy for him and his classmates won’t have to do these things so he may be considered different or an outsider. His willingness to work may show you just how committed he is to going to this school. Most public schools have programs for gifted students. If he works hard and keeps his grades up he could earn a scholarship to college. I wish him the best.


  1. Robin Hubbard says:

    As a older, gifted person who grew up poor within public schools, it is very possible to get a quality education and scholarships for college within the public school system. I chose advanced and gifted classes, core academics only and AP classes. I tested out of nearly 2 years of college and triple majored in Mathematics, Chemistry and Computer Science, graduating in four years plus a summer school class and my college had a May term where you could take up to two classes. Oh, and I paid for it all myself. I did many low cost activities in high school and before and took every opportunity except taking college classes as a high school senior. I had no way to get to college for part of the school day.

    You can also see if there are other opportunities in your local school system for children like your son. Little was available when I was young but that has changed throughout the country. Talk to your child’s teachers, guidance counselor and/or principal. See what is available. Many have programs to keep the gifted in the public school system and can offer opportunities the private school can’t or won’t. Or the private school may be able to lower the cost more or something.

    But, whatever you choose, your child will be fine. It is like that movie, “Little Man Tate” where the mother tried those programs but the kid really needed to be in a more normal environment and the “experts” were wrong. You know you child and will make the best decision for your entire family. There are other options, I am sure.

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