My husband and I married last June. We are in our thirties and both have good jobs. My new husband wants me to have a baby and be a stay at home Mom. I don’t really want a baby and I would go nuts staying at home all of the time. We didn’t really discuss this before we married so I never expected him to feel this way. We had a rather short courtship so we are now finding out things about each other. This is putting a wedge between us. How can I make him see that I can’t really have a baby and be a stay at home Mom?
Even though you are a mature couple you seem to be experiencing your first marriage. There are always some things that couples have to adjust to but this seems like a major issue that the two of you need to resolve. You certainly can’t be forced to have a baby if you don’t want one and apparently, your new husband seems to include having a family in his expectation of married life.
One option that you could consider would be to have the baby and he could be a stay at home Dad. Some men are choosing to do this now. Another option would be to agree to wait a few years and see how you feel about this later. You may have to talk to a marriage counselor and have a third party to mediate your discussions.