Dear Sara, I am having terrible problems with my nineteen year old…

Dear Sara,

I am having terrible problems with my nineteen year old daughter.  She drinks and parties  and has lost her drivers license for driving drunk.  She’s beautiful and smart and has a lot going for her.


I try to tell her what to do but she insists on doing things her way.  She won’t listen and we end up screaming at each other.  How can I make her see what she is doing to herself?

Rhonda
Dear Rhonda,
You have done your job as a parent and she is in charge of her own life now.  If you get into a screaming match with her, how can she respect you when you are on her level?  If she insists on drinking and partying, she needs to take the consequences for her actions.  Don’t try to bail her out of trouble.  That’s the way she will learn.  Your job now is to listen and encourage the positive things your daughter tells you.
Sara

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