I have two boys ages eight and twelve. I’ve never had any problems with my twelve year old. He’s a good kid who has lots of friends and does well in school. The eight-year-old is a totally different child. He’s angry a lot when he doesn’t get his way and isn’t doing well in school. He wasn’t doing his homework so I sat with him at night and supervised. Now I found out that he hasn’t turned it in and may have to repeat third grade. What can I do to change his attitude?
Sounds like you have a really unhappy boy. I’m wondering if he is being compared to his older brother and has decided that he can’t keep up so he will just try to be the opposite. Sometimes kids have differences and you need to appreciate them as they are. You might try to find little things that your younger son is good at and give him praise and attention for these things. Try to be positive with him and don’t compare him to his brother as the perfect example.
It doesn’t sound like your eight-year-old is struggling in school if he can actually do his homework. You might want to make sure he does his homework and if he chooses to not turn it in he will have to repeat the grade. That’s the consequence of his actions. Right now he needs some positive attention and especially no comparison to his brother. It could take a while but if things don’t improve you might want to consider some family therapy.