Caught Sons Smoking

Dear Sara,


I can’t tell you how upset I am. I have two sons ages nine and twelve. I caught them smoking today. The reason I am so upset is that my mother died of lung cancer. She was only forty-two years old when she died and I still miss her so much. I can remember growing up how my clothes and hair smelled like smoke. I have told my sons about the dangers of smoking and they still tried it. What can I do to make them understand?
-Angie




Dear Angie,

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have presented the facts to your sons and this hasn’t made enough of an impact. Why don’t you try telling your sons about your feelings? You could say “I feel so scared when you smoke because I don’t want you to die like my mother did.” Or you could say”I felt angry with my Mom because she smoked and then died and left me without her love and affection.” I’m sure that you can think of other feelings that you have now or when you were growing up.

If you still have family members who smoke and have tried to quit maybe they could talk to your sons and let them know what a hard habit smoking is to kick. Your sons don’t have the experience to know what they are getting into.
Good luck.
-Sara

Comments

  1. k nystrom says:

    Buy two packs of unfiltered cigarettes. Sit the boys down at the table with a box of matches. Have them smoke one each from their own pack. Then the next, then the next. Go all the way though each pack, while sitting there. No lecture is needed, just keep them smoking till done. They will never want another cigarette, ever.

  2. Picture this…. I was 3 or 4, both parents smoked. Well one day I picked up their lit cigarette and smoked away. They did NOT want be to smoke do they brushed off the fire and made me EAT the cigarette!!!! Oh how I did puke!
    64 years later I cannot stand the smell of cigarette smoke!
    You may go to jail for it today but I thank them every day for what they did.

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