My husband is against using any artificial birth control. We have been using the rhythm method. I just found out that I am pregnant again for the fourth time in seven years. I feel overwhelmed and depressed. I really don’t want any more children. I love the ones I have but it’s just more than I can handle. I know that I agreed to this before we married but I don’t think I realized what having babies and caring for them was about. How can I make my husband understand how I feel and what I am going through?
It’s time for you to have a heart to heart talk with your husband and let him know what you are going through. Probably the only sure way to keep from getting pregnant is abstinence and that is not good for a healthy marriage. Let your husband know that you love him and your children but you can’t deal with what he is asking of you any more.
He is not the one who has to go through pregnancy and childbirth or care for the baby after it gets here. Ask him to go to your next appointment with your gynecologist and discuss what options you might have for birth control after this baby arrives. Sometimes women have a tubal ligation after they deliver the baby.
If your husband refuses any options for preventing you from getting pregnant again, you probably need to see a therapist or a marriage counselor. He needs to see that your mental and physical health are important.