Adoption Concerns

Dear Sara,

I’ve been married two years and have just found out I can’t have a baby. I can’t believe that this has happened to me. All my sisters have kids and I feel like I’m not part of all that they have. My husband and I have talked it over and think we might want to adopt. It seems like the women and girls now want to keep their baby and raise it as single Moms so there aren’t so many babies to be adopted. Also it seems that many Moms willing to give up their baby have the option to choose the perfect parents for their child. This seems difficult and exhausting. We aren’t rich and don’t have a grand house so we would be way down on the list of prospective parents. Do you think we should give up or go through the process and get on the list?

Dear Andrea,

You can be part of your sisters’ family by offering to baby sit. I am sure they would be delighted to share their children with you in that way. Only you and your husband can decide how much you are willing to go through to have a baby to care for.

There are things that have to be considered such as income and housing but loving parents are important too. There are babies in other countries that need homes so you might look into that as well. Any way you look at this it won’t be an easy process. What it boils down to is, do you want a baby bad enough to go through all of the inspections and interviews and disappointments to have this baby in your life? It sounds as though you aren’t totally committed to the idea yet. Take your time and think things through.


  1. Be a foster parent. Then you will fall in love with one of the children who needs you and the child can be yours through adoption at that point.

  2. Devra Johnson says:

    Foster care is a good way to bring children into your life and sometimes can lead to adoption.

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