I have a four year old daughter who will be five in September and lately it has been a job in itself to get her to listen. It has been on and off for months where she is taking “spells” of kicking, screaming, hitting and even throwing things at her daycare providers. We have tried time out, taking things away and talking to her and nothing seems to get through to her. I am a first time parent and everyone I have talked to just keeps telling me they don’t know what to recommend. She acts this way sometimes at home as well, but mainly at daycare. I have talked to her doctors and they are saying it is regular tantrums and she will grow out of them. If this is so, how do I get her to behave long enough to go to daycare? I really hope you have some suggestions.
It sounds like you are more effective in your parenting than the daycare is in providing appropriate discipline. Some children find out that they can get what they want by having a tantrum. Kids figure out fairly quickly that if something works then do it again to see if they can control the situation again. It doesn’t take long for them gain the upper hand and get their own way.
Maybe you should have a talk with whoever is in charge at daycare to see if they follow through with appropriate discipline techniques. You might even want to spend some time observing at your daughter’s daycare to see how they handle her behavior.
A four year old isn’t verbal enough to tell you what is going on at daycare so acting out may be the only way she can let you know that something is wrong there. It could be that another child is acting out and hitting her or taking her toys or one of her caregivers is behaving inappropriately. This is another good reason to ask the daycare center if you can spend some time observing.
Keep up with your good parenting techniques at home and if you find the daycare center is lacking then it’s time for a change to a new one.