I come from a very dysfunctional family. I have two preschoolers who are two and four. I want to raise them in a healthier atmosphere than the one I came from. There was so much craziness. What can I do to make sure my family grows up mentally healthy.
Maybe you learned some things growing up that you DON’T want to do. If your parent screamed at you, you probably said to yourself, “I’ll never scream at my kids.” If they hit and left bruises, this may come back to you as “I’ll never hit my kids and hurt them like that.”
I hope that you can let your children know that they have value and that you love them. They need this to grow up with a good self image which comes from feeling loved and being secure. They need to feel safe and protected.
Read some child care books if you are unsure about what is normal for your children’s age group. Remember to let your children be children and don’t expect them to be little adults. You don’t go into raising children knowing everything. You will learn something new with every age group.
It can be very difficult to put the past behind you. Group therapy where you can talk about your problems and issues with others in similar situations might be helpful. You can call your local mental health facility for this kind of help.
I hope that you can make a new family history for your children and yourself.